Al-Anon is a fellowship of people who have been affected by the alcohol abuse of someone. We meet regularly in small groups to absorb the strength and hope of others who have lived with alcoholism. We learn from the experience of others who have lived in similar situations.

Alateen meetings are the same as Al-Anon meetings except that Alateen is restricted to people under age 20 who live, or have lived, with someone who abuses alcohol. Alateen meetings include one or two Al-Anon sponsors. If you are living with a person with an alcohol problem, or if in the past you have lived with an alcohol abuser, please try some of our meetings. We have survived the same problems you are experiencing.If you know someone who is living with an alcoholic, or whose life has been affected by an alcoholic, please urge her or him to try an Al-Anon meeting (or an Alateen meeting if this person is young). The most difficult part of joining Al-Anon and Alateen is finding the courage to walk into the first meeting. The welcome we each received in our first meeting has given us the willingness to return. Hearing from others who have been where we are gives us hope. Discovering that each of us is accepted unconditionally, no matter what problems we have, is a relief. Being a part of a recovering process gives us strength. Some groups meet once a week and others meet more often. There are a few groups that have meetings every day, and sometimes several meetings per day. Some groups have 50 or more attendees and some groups have three or four regular members. Some groups tend to have a broad mixture of people, with a variety of relationships to alcoholics, of various generations, etc., while some groups tend to be people in very similar circumstances.

If you are new to Al-Anon, we urge you to try several groups, if at all possible. You may identify with some groups more than others

A printable version of the pamphlet "Are you troubled by someone's drinking?"

A printable version of the pamphlet "Did you grow up with a problem drinker?"

1. Do you worry about how much someone else drinks?
2. Do you have money problems because of someone else’s drinking?
3. Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else’s drinking?
4. Do you feel if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
5. Do you blame the drinker’s behavior on his or her companions?
6. Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker?
7. Do you make threats, such as, "If you don’t stop drinking, I’ll leave you"?
8. Do you secretly try to smell the drinker’s breath?
9. Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
10. Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker’s behavior?
11. Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
12. Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
13. Do you search for hidden alcohol?
14. Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
15. Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
16. Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to in order to control the drinker?
17. Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
18. Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
19. Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time?
20. Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, Al-Anon may be for you.